Letter to a Young Adoptee

I wish that with one touch I could ease your pain, and protect you from its future grasps, but, this would change your intended destination, restrict you from knowing your own power, and deny you the opportunity to find the person you are meant to become.

Rather than just offering you my advice and limiting your adventure, I will share the essence of my experience, and hope that this will lead you to your own answers.

Every situation in your life is neutral in origin, giving you the opportunity to assign its meaning. Walk away from your books, television, journals, and stop seeking counsel from others; they are your escapes. Instead, sit just with yourself, and ask yourself why you wish to seek, what you hope to find, and how you will proceed.

Before you continue, you should find peace with these answers. They will invariably determine the quality of the wisdom that will be revealed to you. Then, let them all go. If you hold them too tightly, you will miss the point of the ride, and the many answers to questions you never even thought to ask.

If you wish to only experience joy, love, and peace, then this is not your path.

But, if in your heart you know that to fully appreciate and comprehend these emotions, you must also explore pain, fear and confusion, then this road will lead you to understand the purpose for all of these in your life.

As these feelings dance around you, let yourself get caught in their magical rhythm. Do not let your head judge these feelings, but instead ask your heart to embrace the intensity and understand the meaning of each. Learn about them all. If you know more about a few, then you know less about the others, and less about yourself.

If you devote yourself entirely to recognizing and distinguishing each emotion, you will see that these are your tools. They will help you remove the layers of restrictions that you have placed upon yourself, and ensure that your wings and life's work will be exposed.

Even with all of this, in the end, the experience of searching and finding your birthmother is unexplainable and unimaginable until you dive naked into its arms, shouting for retribution, gratitude, expansion, and mercy.

If you do decide that this is what you wish to do, just live the questions and you will live your way to the answers.

 Love,

Bri